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What You Have

Oh yes, oh yes.

If you’ve lived on this planet, you’ve heard that “you don’t know what you have ’till it’s gone,” or some similar phrase. You’ve probably experienced it, as well. Something as simple as the hot shower in the morning feeling so great just when you know it is time for you to get out.

Is there a way around this? Is there a way to totally soak up the essence of something so that when it does end you can say “that is okay, because I did know what I had?”

I don’t think it something you can do in the past or future. To try to get the most out of something that has already passed sounds like a coping mechanism rooted in self-deception. On the other hand, to try to get the most out of something in the future defeats the purpose, because to soak up something and to truly “know what you have” is something that can only happen in the present.

You soak up the essence of that beautiful hot shower when you step in, turn it on, say “thank you” to the universe for the hot shower, and just enjoy it.

Gratitude, Assumptions, and The Negativity Purge

Your mindset determines what is possible for you. It is like the gatekeeper for your mental vision–a customer and a safety inspector walking into a store will see very different things. Similarly, investors see opportunity in market crashes and people who have conviction that they will be successful see everything as a hurdle not as a dead-end.

More generally, our mindset greatly affects our state of being. Today I was lucky enough to have someone very close to me point out a negative lens through which I was viewing the entire country of Trinidad & Tobago (where I currently live). This blocked me off from finding joy in many parts of the country as I had the negative lens on at all times. Becoming aware of the lens and then freeing myself of it was such a relief that I wanted to write about three aspects of mindsets: gratitude, assumptions and positivity. Continue reading