When you are explaining something to a friend, one of the best ways (if not The best) to tell if they are following along is to pay attention to their questions. Have you ever experienced explaining something and, from the question the person asks, you can tell that they have missed the point entirely?
A question reveals where a person is mentally; embedded within the question is where they are and where they are looking to go. “Why do I get jealous of my friend?” shows that the questioning person 1. is honest with them self about an ugly feature of their personality, 2. has identified this process in their mind, and 3. is interested in understanding and most likely freeing themselves of jealousy. Continue reading